Emotional Intelligence

Meet with Emotional Intelliegence

Meet with Emotional Intelliegence

Everything has started 2.000 years ago when Aristocles has written: “ learning has an emotional base”. Since then, scientist, educators, and philosophers are working to prove the importance of emotions. Unfortunately, all these 2000 years the consensus was “emotions are the blockers for good decision-making and focusing.” In last 30 years, the studies are proving the contrary.  

The time when “Time” magazine published the EQ on its cover is not that far; 1995.

Now you get EQ in your life for yourself, your family and your company as the main topic. More information about EQ? Here comes...

What’s emotion? What’s IQ?

Dr. Maruice Elias states that emotions are a warning system for human being about what happens around.  Emotions are the most reliable indicators for understanding how are things going in our lives. 

Karen Stone-McCown, (Six-Seconds’ president and founder) states emotions are formed with the combination of our responses, thoughts, feelings and actions.

Most importantly, we all create our own emotions. Our responses are shaped by our thoughts. We learn that we choose our lives when we clarify our beliefs and patterns. We take responsibility for thoughts, emotions, and actions.

According to the creator of IQ tests for children and adults, Dr. David Wechlser intelligence is the ability for the understanding world, thinking and using scores when we meet challenges. Another academic, Sternberg’s works (who worked on many studies for IQ) proves that IQ has an effect on life success. He states IQ is the capacity of self-management of the individual. He believes IQ can bring high academic performance but not going to cause actions for targets in the other areas of life. The individuals who are successful according to their or others’ standards are not only counting on stable IQ – which is taught in school- but also increase, improve and apply their skills in many subjects.

The tests based on IQ are inefficient to measure the life performance. 


How did EQ concept show up?

Abraham Maslow around 1950s has written about how people can develop emotional, physical, spiritual and cognitive powers. This has triggered the “Human Potential” act and was the biggest celebration since the renaissance.

In the 70s and 80s, many new data about human capacity have been developed.

Peter Salovey – professors of Yale University – states that in the last 20 years, the beliefs about emotions and IQ has changed; also now people are aware that there are other parameters for perfection besides IQ. In the past emotions have been evaluated as a weakness but now people are accepting emotions have important values.

The root of "EQ" concept is an article which has been written by Peter Salovey and Jack Meyer in 90s. This article has defined EQ as a scientifically testable intelligence.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Six Seconds defines Emotional Intelligence as the set of skills that help us to blend emotions with thoughts for optimum results. Many people have been taught “to leave emotions on the door”. Six Seconds’ main idea is emotions are essential for efficient decision-making and motivation.

If you use your emotions efficiently to connect with others and to stay focused on the critical path, you can influence others better. Therefore in 2016, Harward Business Review stated EQ as the key for professional success.

Emotional Intelligence is the skill to listen to both emotions and thoughts while using these for our own targets. 

Emotional intelligence is being smart with emotions.

According to recently conducted studies, leaders who are able to use their EQ competencies are producing 43% successful results than others.


Six-Seconds EQ Model

Know Yourself: Clearly seeing what you feel and do. Emotions are data, and these competencies allow you to accurately collect that information.

Choose Yourself: Doing what you mean to do. Instead of reacting “on autopilot,” these competencies allow you to proactively respond.

Give Yourself:  Doing it for a reason. These competencies help you put your vision and mission into action so you lead on purpose and with full integrity.




Know Yourself

Enhance Emotional


Accurately identifying and interpreting both simple and compound feelings.

Recognize Patterns

Acknowledging frequently recurring reactions and behaviors.

Choose Yourself

Apply Consequential


Evaluating the costs and benefits of your choices

Navigate Emotions

Assessing, harnessing, and transforming emotions as a strategic resource.

Engage Intrinsic


Gaining energy from personal values & commitments vs. being driven by external forces.

Exercise Optimism

Taking a proactive perspective of hope and possibility.

Give Yourself

Increase Empathy

Recognizing and appropriately responding to others’ emotions.

Pursue Noble Goals

Connecting your daily choices with your overarching sense of purpose.


The purpose is to combine emotions and thoughts to live more effective.


What is Emotional Intelligence Competency?

Joshua Freedman in his article of “How can I control my emotions better?” published in EQ Life on 2015 states:

1-Change your perspective:  Even in challenging emotions like fear, anger, jealousy, there is a reason. These are carrying messages from ourselves to ourselves. There are intelligence and wisdom. Instead of managing emotions we can control our behaviors.

2-Create an emotion strategy: Think about what you want to happen next. Which feelings can help this happen? In every situation, there is a possibility of mixed emotions. We can call the ones to help us for development.

3-Charge your compassion/affection batteries: To take care of others helps us to charge our compassion batteries and this increases our inner peace. 

To name our feelings gives us space. The first step is to define “I’m this...”, “I’m feeling like....”. This reminds us we are not that emotion and emotions are not permanent. We can be more peaceful with emotions when we listen to what emotions are trying to say. And also if we remember we are more than what we feel at that moment.

Why is Emotional Intelligence important for you as a Leader?

A leader’s job is to engage a team to do work beyond the capacity of any one individual.  It is about enrolling people to utilize their full potential. When a leader is aware, authentic, passionate, and acts in integrity, s/he will build trust, commitment and alignment to foster an environment where people can bring their best to the table.

There is no formula for great leadership, no magical path to follow.  A great leader makes her or his own path – one that is uniquely based on his or her own skills and attributes.  You cannot imitate someone else’s style or use a prescribed set of behaviors.  Instead, you need to carefully assess yourself to know your own strengths and vulnerabilities and move forward.  This report will give the insight to build and apply your EQ to improve leadership.


In today’s world to be successful to manage good teams, not to loose customers, to increase market share and to make a difference in your field the only thing you need is to be at the competency level of understanding company values, employees’ profiles and customers’ needs, increasing current options and taking actions for the results. The healthiest and shortest way of doing this is by using EQ competencies.

Remember that emotions drive people, people drive performance; also when logic is blended with emotions you may have meaningful results.

Source :


Michael Miller,  17 May 2016, EQ Life, http://www.6seconds.org

 Joshua Freedman, EQ Life, September 2015, http://www.6seconds.org

Joshua Freedman, 3 Steps of Emotional Intelligence  https://youtu.be/YOPHMj-sU4o

Joshua freedman, 25 June 2000, first published in EQ Today), http://www.6seconds.org  

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